What's the deal with women and M/M Erotica?
I've asked myself this question many times over the last few months.
As a straight (well as straight as anyone can be), forty-something year old widow with four kids to brag about, I'm probably not the first person you'd think of when it comes to authors of Gay Erotica.
Yeah, well imagine MY surprise!!
I recall the first time I read a M/M novel. The author, Blak Rayne, had just released her first story with a mutual publisher and I just had to check it out... let's say that curiosity had me by the tail.
I credit her with popping my M/M cherry and she was more than happy to have done it.After reading it though, I found myself asking more questions than I thought possible about the genre
Okay, so naturally some were dumb, but as she explained, there's no such thing as a dumb question when you're sincerely trying to educate yourself on something you know nothing about.Let's face it...to my knowledge, I've never had sex with a gay man... kinda defeats the label in the first place doesn't it? Not that a gay man would never sleep with a woman... I suppose some might, should the situation arise, but that's neither here nor there. We'll tackle that topic another day!!
Anyway, in her stories the relationship lines were profoundly drawn and it was clear one hero totally dominated the other in the bedroom, though he may not have in the public eye. It was a futuristic military story, and the way the characters were depicted, their roles were often times reversed.
It reminded me of a time when I asked lesbian friends, "Okay, so who's the dude in the relationship?"
I decided the best answer should be, "Whoever has the bigger toy."**shaking my head, still trying to get that yummy image out of my twisted mind.
I also decided the allure for me to M/M erotica as a reader is that vulnerable side that one must reach to open their hearts and minds to something that is still, unfortunately, so taboo throughout modern society. Things are changing, but not nearly fast enough.As a writer, my reasons are close to the same thing.
I have a need to create believable characters, flawed and struggling. Somehow the angst and emotions run so much higher, not to mention hotter, when dealing with two men.
The power struggle is addictive. Getting two "alpha" males to come face to face with a natural attraction, toss them together in a situation which ultimately leads to love, and then sitting back and waiting to see who grows the most, who gives, who takes, who goes above and beyond the call to be true to themselves, has to be the most challenging task I've encountered as a writer. Not to mention the satisfaction and utter delight I feel when the ending is a happy one. Strangely enough, after a while, the stories stop being about two men and become stories about two people. Isn't that how it should be anyway?
People don't seem to bat an eye when guys fall all over themselves because two women kiss, only to have a conniption fit when women react the same over two men going at it, all hot and heavy.Personally, I find both to be hot, simply because I appreciate passion as much as the next person
Admittedly, I do have a type and if the pics I've shared throughout my website and this post aren't revealing, then perhaps you need to have your eyes examined.
I like 'em athletic, hot and not too hairy. **please excuse me for a second while I reflect on these sensual images...
In the end, I can't speak for everyone as to why women love gay erotica, specifically M/M stories. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes and it's not for me to judge.
What I do know is this... women aren't writing the genre because men aren't capable. (Heheh, I mean who would know about love and sex with a man better than a man.)So it's not about stepping on toes, or taking a jab at our testosterone infused counterparts at all.
The best explanation I have is that a good chunk of readers are women and women do tend to get all mushy over the romance stuff. *please don't write to me about stereotyping people with that remark....
Instead, ask around. How may of your male friends read romance? Now how many of your female friends do? There isn't really a need for a head count...the ladies will win hands down.
Now how many romance authors out there are female? Male?I think you get my point. It was only matter of time before some of us crossed the bridge and left our mark on the other side. And if the end results means more choices out there for everyone, including more stories tailor-made for the gay community, then how can this be a bad thing?
I hope my first M/M erotica continues to touch lives in the same way it has so far.
We play around a lot here, discussing sex and drooling over hot guys, but a lot of these stories have messages that go far past gratuitous sex. My stories do and a lot of the stories of my fellow authors do as well.Sensitive topics are addressed and real human issues are dealt with. Wrapping those touchy subjects up into a good story with a lot of emotion and adding in the necessary amounts of sensuality, just makes it come through on a deeper, more personal level. After all, it's all still romance.
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